Who’s single and ready to jingle? Being in college, there are many options and roads you can follow. Some people take the serious relationship path; others aren’t as lucky and have not found their significant other.
You always hear stories about how people met the love of their life. The majority of these people met their “love” in college. All around me people are in love, getting married, or are in a serious relationship. This makes me feel like I am behind in life. When I think about it, people are suppose to come to college, party, do some schoolwork, and meet the person they are going to marry. Many of my friends are doing just that, and it seems like every person I talk to is planning their wedding. I am a girl so this tends to make me over think. What am I doing with my life? Why haven’t I found anybody? And what’s wrong with me? I am a junior in college, I only have two years left and I still haven’t found anyone even worth spending my time with.
Although the typical girl is looking for a relationship and is ready to settle down, there are slim pickens on the amount of guys at this age that are looking for the same thing. This puts all of us who haven’t found “the one” in a panic. We can’t blame the guys; it’s not their fault that their testosterone levels are through the roof during this stage of their lives. But this causes turmoil for us girls looking for “the one.” All guys are looking for anymore is someone to “come chill in their dorm room.” What happen to the good old, fashioned, taking a girl out on an actual date? This is what we girls are looking for, not a hook up in your dorm room.
I tend to think maybe I’m too picky or my expectations are too high for this day and age. But then I reflect on my pervious relationships, and having someone hold the door open for you every time you get in the car is NOT too much to ask. Its also not too much to ask to wake up to something nice like a good morning message every once in awhile or everyday! Although none of this is happening in my life right now, I am somewhat thankful. Being on my own and having no one to lean on has helped me grow stronger mentally. Figuring out I do not need someone just because all my friends have someone has made me more of an independent person.
A lot of this panic still goes through my mind, but as I am growing it lessens each day. I do not need someone right now just because everyone around does. A good friend once told me “stop looking and let it come to you,” and I am doing just that.
Photo by Nick McGee
Article wrote by Mariah Wedel